I have to say it is. I don't date fat women. There's no attraction to me. I don't feel horrible about it. Obesity is a choice, height is not. There are women who will not find me attractive because I am just 5'7, that's their choice.

I think the weight shouldn't matter because that is only a number. How a woman carries herself and cares for herself should be most important. I am not "fat" but I do jiggle. My fiance' loves that I am not a stick. He said he would rather me be 140 pounds than 100 pounds. I have been as low as 110 and he said that I was too thin. Keep in mind I am only 5' so I am in a size 10.

I guess everyone is different with what they want.

The older you get, the more you realize a deep connection and friendship means more than weight or looks. I prefer a pretty face over a perfect body. I would rather date a 200 pound gal who had a drop dead stunning face, then some 115 pound woman who looked like a dude in the face.

Personally, I would take healthy over weight. She can be a healthy size 14, or a healthy size 4, so long as she is healthy, that means the most to me. I don't want someone who starves themselves, over works out, or picks at food. I also don't want someone who over eats, eats a lot of junk, and cant get up a flight of stares without being out of breath.

Nothing wrong with keeping up your appearance @Babo